Today I turned 39 years old. I am one of the youngest from my circle of friends, many of them have already or recently turned 40. It seems to be a big deal- such a grand mile stone. The outlook for turning 40 seems very intriguing to me. What is it about this age? Is this mid-life crisis? I hear from many that they are terrified about turning 40. What is so terrifying? Is it the idea of finally becoming that future person you envisioned as a young child but no where near the expectation? Or is it more superficial? Physical changes? Or is it financial security – not being at the income level as anticipated. Or is it not accomplishing all of life goals and not meeting the definition of a successful life? I would be lying if I said that these things haven’t crossed my mind. However, I don’t want my life to be defined by age.
For as long as I can remember, I have always been a planner. I have planned my life but with no specific clear vision of what I want my future to look like. I’ve always been a “take it one day at a time” kind of person. Thinking too far into my future and setting unrealistic expectations of my future is so overwhelming. I never liked the question of “Where do you see yourself in 10 years?” I don’t know. All I know is that I hope to be happy and content with the decisions I have made for myself. I don’t like to think about the specific career I will have, the car I will own, or the house I will be living in. Over the years, I have learned that those things are not important. Don’t get me wrong, I do expect life long financial stability and having a career that I love and am good at -but the specifics are fuzzy. And that’s ok.
Every year, I write out a list of goals on my birthday. This morning I read through my journal and looked back at years of goal setting and life experiences from the last decade. As I read through my entries, I found a thread of themes. We all value something in life, but never stop to take the time to think about those things and truly live an intentional life. I noticed words like “I am the happiest when”, ” I was very excited to”, “I can’t wait to”, “I couldn’t wait to share this news” etc. Every year I set goals for myself that are important in that given time. As I looked from year to year, I saw gradual progression into my future through significant experiences that I would not have predicted or imagined at 30. Life has happened…. good and bad.
I think that we often get caught up on life and societal expectations and forget what is truly important to us – deep down inside. I think that part of that feeling of turning a certain age is not having met those external expectations. But what if we lived each day with purpose, intention and sticking to what we love and value? Over time, we will have made decisions, created experiences and set goals that are meaningful to us. If so, when we look back, there should be minimal to no regrets – right? After all, we are being true to ourselves.
So as I personally reflect on my past and present life, I am feeling grateful. I have realized that I have lived my life the way that I know is best for me. It hasn’t been easy, but I try to keep it real with myself. Today, I turned 39. What does that supposed to look like. For me, it’s living in the city in a small condo with my husband of 16 years. We don’t have children. I have a career that I am passionate about but definitely need to continue seeking ways to grow professionally. I have many fears that I want to overcome and many experiences that I strive to live for, and changes I want to make. Life is too short to keep saying “one day”. Today is one day.
I created this blog because I love to write. I love capturing moments and telling about them. However, life has happened and I don’t make time to do some of the things that I love – like writing. This year, as I anticipate the big 40, I want to continue enjoying life and capture my last year in my 30’s. This blog is called Harmony and Adventure, because that is how I perceive myself. I don’t like drama and like to keep to myself. I don’t like mean things or mean people. I gravitate toward positivity and good vibes. I think life is a journey full of adventures. I like to try new things, travel and keep an open mind. I have a passion for helping others (but want to be better in serving others). I am not seeking perfection, but just a life of harmony and adventure. For the next 12 months, I will write and capture the little and big things that encompass my values of Harmony and Adventure. I will include blog posts, pictures and videos. I may write once a month or more.
My entries will focus on areas that align with some of my core values:
- Spending time with family
- Nurturing my marriage with compromise, sharing, listening and gratitude
- Getting out of my comfort zone (personally and professionally)
- Empowering others
- Fitness goals / running new races
- Capturing moments as an amateur photographer
- Peeling the layers of my entrepreneur spirit (focusing on my side hustle)
- Being adventurous (doing things that scare me and challenge me)
If you are reading this, I invite you to my journey.